God never ceases to amaze me in the ways he demonstrates his love for me. Blessing me with wonderful friendships is one of those ways, and Jenifer is one of those dear friends. She is a fellow homeschooling mom with five beautiful children. Her youngest was brought into her family through adoption, and what she said about that the other day in our Sunday school class really touched me...
This is Jenifer's youngest child, Maddie Kate. I know she has grumpy moments like any baby, but she has a grin every time I see her! Jenifer knew that it was part of God's plans that they adopt Maddie (the way He orchestrated it all is quite a story in itself!), but because she has four biological children, she admits to being a little bit worried that she wouldn't love Maddie in quite the same way as the children that grew in her own tummy. But God poured out his love into her heart (Romans 5:5) and her love for Maddie is just as strong as it is for her other children. Every time she holds Maddie, she is in awe of how much love God gave her for this little girl who grew in another mama's body. And as she sits in wonder and awe of the love she feels, and of the Lord who sent this child to her, she hears Him whisper in her ear, "That is exactly how I feel about you." The Lord has adopted us into his family, and He loves us just as much as he loves his only begotten Son!!! That makes me want to jump up and skip around the room-- how 'bout you?
But as our pastor talked on Sunday about the dysfunctional family of Isaac (particularly in all the troubles with Esau and Jacob), a realization hit me: we are those children with baggage, in need of a loving home. We aren't perfect. In fact, we're very flawed! Some of us have more problems to overcome than others. But God is willing to bring troubled children like us into his family. He loves us despite all our many flaws, despite our baggage and our troubles. Even when we act out, he has the utmost patience with us, and he loves us through it all. God knows all there is to know about dysfunctional families and troubled children. What a glorious, wonderful realization! It is so comforting to me to know that He will give us plenty of love and patience for whatever children He brings into our family. I know with all my heart that all children-- step-children, biological children, and adopted children --are a blessing, and I know that "troubled" child we adopt will bless us, probably more than we will bless that child.

"In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves." Ephesians 1:5-6In pondering this further, I thought about the kids in foster care: the ones waiting for adoption. The ones who have been through some tough times and are in need of homes. They aren't cookie-cutter perfect; they come with baggage, and they'll need a whole lot of love and patience to work through all that. Obviously some will have more problems to overcome than others. Many people think we're probably a little crazy to be willing to bring a child like this into our family. And sometimes it scares me a little...
But as our pastor talked on Sunday about the dysfunctional family of Isaac (particularly in all the troubles with Esau and Jacob), a realization hit me: we are those children with baggage, in need of a loving home. We aren't perfect. In fact, we're very flawed! Some of us have more problems to overcome than others. But God is willing to bring troubled children like us into his family. He loves us despite all our many flaws, despite our baggage and our troubles. Even when we act out, he has the utmost patience with us, and he loves us through it all. God knows all there is to know about dysfunctional families and troubled children. What a glorious, wonderful realization! It is so comforting to me to know that He will give us plenty of love and patience for whatever children He brings into our family. I know with all my heart that all children-- step-children, biological children, and adopted children --are a blessing, and I know that "troubled" child we adopt will bless us, probably more than we will bless that child.
"Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him."
Psalm 127:3
















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Wonderful insight! Another great, thought provoking blog.
Great post and one we have also lived in our foster-to-adopt journey. I pray that your adventures in foster care are truly transforming, as ours have been.
Many blessings,
Laura
Since we are not sure why we can't get pregnant I have thought about this often. What if we adopt a sweet little baby and then I get pregnant? Will we love both babies the same? I know it is terrible to think that, but it has been a thought in my mind. Thank you for this post- however a baby comes to us I KNOW it will be planned out by God and will be the perfect baby for our little family!
Jamie....
You know it's funny...your post really went sooooo well with what we were writing about at IOWords...How perfectly they fit in...
You got me with this...
"we are those children with baggage, in need of a loving home. We aren't perfect. In fact, we're very flawed!"
Boy are we ever flawed and HE knows it and HE wants to move us past it...What a great post...
I'm leaving blessed!!
hugs,
lori
What an insightful and inspiring post.
Blessings to you!
What a wonderful post. I'm a single mother and I'm not looking for a husband, but one of my fears has been, if I did remarry, could he love my daughter as much as any future children. This makes me feel better. I guess I'll keep following God and see what he has planned for my future. Thanks.
Great post and cutie baby. Understanding His love is major [art of our spiritual growth..
Thanks.
I teared up when I read your quote of Romans 5:5. The moment that the Lord put adoption on my heart and He made clear we were to go completely out of my comfort zone to China to do so, my heart grew 10 sizes that day (like the Grinch!) and I fell in love with this beautiful baby girl that I didn't even know yet. I wept and wept at that moment and could feel this child deep in my heart. I loved her from that moment on as deeply as I've loved my two biological children.
Now that she's a part of our lives it's as if she was born to me from the beginning. When God fashioned her in her Mother's womb, the Lord knew where she was going. And yes, what beautiful symbolism of our relationship with our Savior and Heavenly Father.
Thank you for such a beautiful post!
Blessings to You,
Melissa
www.homeschoolblogger.com/melissal89
That is an awesome post! Yes, we are ALL flawed but in need of God's love. Your fellow blog friend is a very special woman to have taken in a child like that..I too would have had the same fears as her. But God proves our fears unfounded every time. Thanks also for dropping by my blogs and my daughters' blogs! They loved having a 'comment' on their new blogs! Blessing to you!
Wow, this was great and so perfect for today's quote!
Maddie Kate is such a cutie!
I'm so blessed we all share the same adoption papers!!
Blessings to you♥
Wonderful post, Jamie!
And in response to Erin above, I know TWO families who got pregnant during the process of international adoption! Two babies within a few months of each other! Like having twins, I guess. Both families are thrilled, of course.
I've tagged you for a fun meme (if you do that sort of thing).
Thank you for the birthday wishes. My mom is so good to me.
I love your post. Being a mother is such a blessing. And I have truly found that God has given me strength to get through even the most difficult situations.
Hi, thank you for visiting my blog! I really enjoyed this post. In talking to my five year old about how babies come into the world and how they become part of families,I have been explaining him that I was adopted as a baby. He has been having a hard time wrapping his mind around this concept. I overheard him telling his cousin that his "mommy's mommy and daddy are really her step-parents". Well, I thought I did a wonderful job explaining adoption to him, but he still has a few little misconceptions-but don't we all?. That's ok though. I read to him some of the beginning of your post, I think it was helpful to his understanding. Most importantly, I want to teach him that we are ALL adopted-when we come into God's family through Christ.
I'm so glad I found your site-I love it!
Beautiful post, Jamie! All children are definitely a blessing from the Lord.
What a beautiful post!
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